22 weeks.
{Would that be an accurate assessment of my husband's baby belly?
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As I have taken some time off from the blog world and facebook, I have really needed to catch up! While viewing past photo albums and posts of acquaintances, friends, or bloggy friends, I feel that all I've been seeing is baby bellies! Even as I walk down the aisles at my job, babies are in the air!
Am I missing something here? It seems like everyone is pregnant! Okay, maybe not everyone...just a LOT of women! Even young women that are way younger than me and were married a few years after me. I mean, I was their RA in college! I feel like it should be the other way around. Craziness...
Now, there's obviously nothing wrong with being pregnant. I hope to be someday. I actually look forward to the day to stop taking the pill and hopefully lose a few pounds before packing on the baby weight! But, when you see babies everywhere, it's
not necessarily that you feel pressure to get pregnant, or maybe it is pressure...I don't know!
Of course, I want to have kids, except I have a detailed timeline of exactly when that will happen. Now, the hubby would have a kid today, and the mom-in-law would have had a grandkid years ago!! I've been told you just know when you are ready. I sure hope that's the case because it is not something I want to jump into prematurely.
For those of you that are already parents or are expecting, was having a baby something you both decided you were ready for? Or were there mixed feelings?
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well, i got pregnant with Lacey 5 months after we were married. That wasn't in the plans at all, but now I am happy it happened that way. Miles was planned though. I felt ready for another one. I will say though, that being in school and having kids is super, super hard. So if I were you, I'd wait until you get your masters. It takes a lot of motivation to keep going back semester after semester, but I know that if I don't finish now, I wont. Yes, I think you'll know, but if you get preggers outside your "timeline" you'll be just as ready! (because you'll never be truly ready)!
When I got married we both decided that we would start a family right away. (I was 29 hus was 37) So we were totally ready. We miscarried our 1st baby...which was VERY HARD. It took me longer to get pregnant the 2nd time due to the miscarriage. So we were prepared with this one...due in 8 weeks!
My sister got pregnant at 22 and had just told the WORLD they were NOT having children for about 5 more years...so she wasn't as ready! BUT, she has a little boy to die for...he is perfect!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Liked this post!
It was obviously something we discussed. In my family, we have a history of premature menopause and pretty much said we need to start now if we want to have 3. Also, possibly forseeing fertility issues who knows if it would have taken much time. After we found out I was pregnant the first time, hubby was shell-shocked and reverted back to me forcing him to have a child. After the miscarriage, we were both devastated and then he REALLY wanted to have a child right away.
Long story short, you have to ask yourself, if I were to get pregnant right away, would you be ready in 10-11 months to take care of a baby? If it takes more than a year to get pregnant, are you emotionally ready for that fight to get pregnant?
Either way, it has been such an emotional roller coaster that has brought us SOOO much closer as husband and wife.
I have PCOS , which I've known all my life. So when it came time to start thinking about children we saw a fertility specialist, with fertility treatments you never know how long it may take, it could take six months, a year, or more you just never know. for us we decided as long as everything else was in order ie: finances, a place to live, etc. we decided to go ahead and try w/ fertility treatments since we didn't know how long it would take. lucky for us we did 1 treatment and got pregnant! which was nice, cause that stuff's expensive.
either way, I agree both husband and wife need to be ready and willing to have children and ready for the process. if you're not both ready being pregnant will only make things worse.
so go ahead, drink the water! :)
I so feel ya on this! Sometimes I think about how much I'd love to have baby, but at other times I feel no where near ready! The number of friend I have with babies is beginning to increase, and I think that's part of what's making me think about it more. But you're right, I'm sure I'll know when I'm ready!
Also....you need to stop by my blog ;)
Hey Kristen! Great post! Matt and I felt like we waited forever, but one day, it dawned on me that I was ready. So I brought it up to Matt, and he said he wanted to wait 6 months. (I don't remember why exactly.) So we did. By the time Autumn was born, she had a warm welcome because we both felt prepared. Don't worry about rushing into it. It's up to you to decide when you are ready. And when you are, it will make you an even better parent. But, I will say, after we had Autumn, she was so beautiful and majorly awesome, I wondered why we didn't do it sooner.
We have a plan too, so we are waiting a while. There are just so many things we want to get done before a baby comes around. I see my friends with children and I just know that we are not ready for any of it yet. Our time will come one day sister!
you'll be just as ready! (because you'll never be truly ready)!
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